Modern dating is changing fast from the workplace to the internet. Conventional dating has taken a backseat to give way to no-strings-attached hook-ups. Does this signal sexual empowerment or moral decay? No matter what, hookup culture is here and is changing our views in dating and relationship.
The term hooking up, or a hook up could mean anything intimate, be it kissing, oral sex, intercourse and anything in between. The younger ones usually refer this to fooling around (with or without sex) whereas older folks mean they actually did have sex.
So whether you’re new to the game of hooking up or an old pro, be sure to hook up in a way that keeps your bedroom free of any twerkers with hidden agendas. It is best to prepare and equip yourself with a couple of rules before you end up in the arms of an axe murderer.
Never hook up with friends.
This should be on top of the list. Hooking up with friends automatically changes the dynamic of the friendship. Friends should stay just that: friends. And most importantly, never hook up with more than two friends from the same social circle. Doing otherwise is a fast way to ensure that you’re known as “that guy.” Besides, if you hook up with all your friends, who will listen to you talk about your hookups?
Never fail to remember her name.
Your odds of bringing her home will be down to zero if you’ve forgotten her name within seconds or minutes of meeting her– you can’t simply ask her what her name is after she just told you. The only situation where this doesn’t kill your chances is if the girl is too drunk to remember where she is and, quite possibly, her own name. In this case, avoid taking her home anyways. You want to get some sex, not get sued for rape. If you are bad with name recollection, I suggest talking up someone you already know or someone who looks familiar. That way you avoid the awkward introduction and pointless name exchange.
Never forget protection
This is another simple rule, but often ignored or forgotten about. Most importantly, it’s something that often gets overlooked in the mayhem that happens before you go out. That is why taking your time before the night starts is essential. If you end up getting lucky and going back to her place, it could all be for naught if you don’t have a protection. A simple error such as forgetting a condom could make your week, night and weekend all that much worse. Trust me, there’s no worse feeling then getting your ball onto the green only to realize you left you’re putter at home.
Never act like a boyfriend
Make sure that the two of you are on the same page in regards to the commitment of the relationship. You’ll want to clear this up right away to avoid any hurt feelings down the line. There is nothing wrong with having sex just to meet a sexual desire, but you need to make sure that her expectations are the same as yours. Don’t develop a strong emotional attachment if you don’t intend to make it last. You don’t want a casual fling to eventually lead to complication.
Never hook up with a girl who is creepy.
If she seems weird or creepy, assume that she’s an axe murderer. Listen to that inner voice. If a girl just seems off, don’t go home with her. It may not be that she’s trying to be mysterious or different; she may be trying to lure you — and not in the sexy, fun way.
Hook up dating is surely fun with less complications, however, it also presents a trade-off: Yes, opting for casual sex spares you the risk and heartbreak of relationships, but it can also leave you feeling empty and lonely.