By: Willy ‘D Great
Whether the problem is big or small, may mga bagay na kayang gawin to get your sex life back on track. Well, nandyan na yung communicating with your partner, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, or minsan naghahanap tayo ng mga tinatawag na “self-help materials”.
Enjoying a satisfying sex life is both an emotional and physical journey. Sabi nga ng mga experts, “sex can evoke a kaleidoscope of emotions”. The reactions from sexual experience ay magkakaiba – from love, excitement, and sensitivity to longing. Minsan naman makakaramdam ka ng anxiety and disappointment – especially kapag hindi ka confident sa sexual performance mo.
But what is sex, really? Well, it depends! Pardon my explicit description (kaya kung ikaw ay 18 year old and below, eh huwag mo na ituloy ang pagbabasa mo dito sa article na ito). Most of the time we talk about sex at mga bagay na ginagawa tungkol dito – not just whether you’re a girl or a guy. Sex can include many things you can do – pwedeng ikaw lang mag-isa o kaya naman may kasama ka (pwedeng with opposite sex , same sex, or group sex).
Sexual activities can be everything from kissing to intercourse – from holding hands and hugging to fondling and touching another person. Pwede rin yung mga bagay na ginagawa mo all by yourself – katulad ng masturbating. On one level, sex is just another hormone-driven bodily function designed to perpetuate the species. Apart from the biochemical forces at work sa iyong katawan, yung karanasan mo and expectations help shape your sexuality. Kaya napaka-importante na maintindihan mo ang sarili bilang isang sexual being, your thoughts about what forms a satisfying sexual connection, and your relationship with your partner. These will help you develop and maintain a fulfilling sex life.
TALK TO YOUR PARTNER
For us Pinoy, mahirap talagang pag-usapan ang sex even under the best of circumstances with our partners. Particularly kung merong problema – and when this happens–katulad ng feelings of hurt, shame, guilt, and resentment–humihinto ang usapan and in most cases nawawala yung urge to continue the sexual activity. Well, maliban na lang if ang topic ng conversation is about sexual dreams and fetishes. Sabi nga ng karamihan, because good communication is a cornerstone of a healthy relationship, establishing a dialogue is the first step not only to a better sex life, but also to a closer emotional bond.
Napaka-importante to find the right time to talk. There are two types of sexual conversations: the ones you have in the bedroom and the ones you have elsewhere. Okay lang to tell your partner what feels good in the middle of lovemaking, pero it’s best to wait until nasa neutral setting kayo to discuss larger issues, such as orgasm troubles or difficulties in attaining erection. More importantly, be honest. You may think you’re protecting your partner’s feelings by not disclosing your sexual problem, but in reality dito magsisimula ang mas malaking tension sa relationship nyo.
MAINTAIN GOOD HEALTH
Your sexual well-being goes hand in hand with your overall mental, physical, and emotional health. So, if you want to shape up your sex life, kailangan, you keep your body in shape too. Physical activities katulad ng work-out and exercises can improve your sexual functioning. Because physical arousal depends greatly on good blood flow, aerobic exercise (which strengthens your heart and blood vessels) is essential. And exercise offers a wealth of other health benefits. Huwag kalimutan to include strength training.
Tigilan ang paninigarilyo because smoking contributes to peripheral vascular disease, which affects blood flow to the penis. Also, use alcohol in moderation. Some men with reported erectile dysfunction find that having one drink can help them relax. Pero alcohol can make matters worse, dahil ang alcohol ay nakakapagpigil ng sexual reflexes by dulling the central nervous system. Besides, ang matinding pag-inom ng alak sa mahabang panahon may damage the liver, leading to an increase in estrogen production in men.
Kumain ng tama at iwasan ang pagkain ng fatty foods dahil this can lead to high blood cholesterol and obesity—both major risk factors for cardiovascular disease. Kapag overweight ka, mas madali kang mapagod. Remember, increased libido is often an added benefit of losing those extra pounds.
PUT THE FUN BACK INTO SEX
Even in the best relationship, sex will have its dull moments after a number of years. Kaya dapat lang na you rekindle the spark. Be imaginative and adventurous tulad ng pag-explore sa mga erotic reading materials and movies together o kaya naman ay subukan nyong mag sex sa kitchen counter, take a bubble bath together or subukan nyong gumamit ng sex toys if you never done it before. You can also recreate your first sexual experience together or try different position na hindi nyo pa nasusubukan.
BOOST YOUR SEX DRIVE
Sabi nga nila, you have to use it or lose it. Long periods without an erection can deprive the penis of a portion of the oxygen-rich blood it needs to maintain good sexual functioning. Nowadays, as men enter their 30’s, most start to experience characteristics of andropause. This begins to modify body’s production of hormones, most clearly Testosterone. These changes happen over time at naapektohan yung physical performance at energy levels, pati na rin yung moods and sex drive. Meron din mga prescription drugs available that can help overcome this dilemma – pero kadalasan these drugs can’t address the underlying causes of reduced sexual stamina in men.
There are a number of natural herbs that will provide the kind of results that men are looking for. At kapag tama ang combination ng mga natural herbs they can be extremely effective. Katulad ng The Black RhinoTM – the natural performance supplement or performance booster for men ay gawa from quality herbs and aphrodisiacs that help men to increase staying power. Nakakatulong ito to make sex last longer.
How does it work? The Black RhinoTM promotes sexual performance in three different ways: (1) bolster sexual performance and satisfaction; (2) sexual desire enhancement so you feel in the mood to have sex with your partner; (3) promote natural increase of testosterone to improve stamina, energy and performance and vasodilatation of the penis to make sure your tool is fully charged.
Remember, ang testosterone is a hormone produced by the testicles and is responsible for the proper development of male sexual characteristics. So kung bumaba ang testosterone level mo your sexual desire decreases, including your stamina.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Call me Willy ‘D Great, first time contributor for The Black Rhino Man. Programmer by day but certified lady’s man by night. Trying hard to master the Taglish language in my writing gigs. I live in an imaginary bachelor pad overlooking the multiple lights of the 6 o’clock horrible traffic in Manila with my future wife, whom I haven’t met yet, and my precious and beloved computer.
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