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Use Your Head, Protect Yourself


“the best way to avoid contracting sexually transmitted disease is not to have sex at all.”


If you are sexually active with multiple partners, definitely you are prone to acquiring sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).  That’s the price we, guys, need to pay for being the modern-day Casanova.  But as what our old folks said, the best way to avoid contracting sexually transmitted disease is not to have sex at all. However, that isn’t a choice that most of us are always willing to make. However, there are ways to reduce the risk of contracting an STD once we have chosen to have sex. How? Use your head to protect you: (1) know yourself, (2) know your partner, and (3) know about condoms and safer sex.

Here are some basic steps that you can take to protect yourself from contracting STDs:

NO SEX, NO STD

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Of course, the best and the only sure way to avoid STDs is not having sex at all. Need we say more?

PRACTICE SAFE SEX EVERY TIME YOU HAVE SEX

Symbol-USEWRAPUse a latex condom and/or other appropriate barriers every time you have sex, particularly if you have more than one sex partner. If your sex life involves intercourse, anal or vaginal, you should never have sex without a condom. Use other barriers like dental dams during oral sex as well. Oral sex can spread a number of STDs, including herpes and syphilis. Although it is easy to use condoms to make fellatio safer, you need a dental dam to protect yourself and your partner when performing other types of oral sex. Barriers are not 100% protective against all STDs, but they will greatly reduce your risk.

LIMIT THE NUMBER OF PARTNERS YOU HAVE

Symbol-multi-partnerIf you are going to have sex, have it with just one person and ask about her sexual history. The more partners you have, the more likely you are to catch STD. Practice monogamy — this means having sex with only one person. Remember, two people who have sex only with one another don’t have any opportunity to bring a new STD into the relationship. If you and your partner have been tested and are healthy, remaining faithful to each other is a very good way to reduce your chances of contracting an STD.

CHOOSE YOUR SEX PARTNERS WITH CARE

Symbol-partnercareDon’t have sex with someone whom you suspect may have a STD or who has many sexual partners. Talk to your partner about sex in honest way. If you can’t talk to her about sex, you can’t talk to her about safer sex. Clear, open, and honest communication is important in all aspects of any relationship. It is important to be able to talk comfortably with your partner not only about safer sex and STD testing, but about monogamy and whether your relationship is or isn’t exclusive. In all cases, try your best to focus on the truth as opposed to what you think she wants to hear.

GET TESTED, REGULARLY

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Get checked for STDs. Don’t risk giving the infection to your partner. Just because you’ve been screened for STDs early on, does not mean that you can’t contract it later.  If you engage in unprotected sex with more than one partner since your last STD screen, you need another set of screening tests. Also, you should be concerned if your partner may be having unprotected sex with other people.

DON’T USE ALCOHOL OR DRUGS BEFORE YOU HAVE SEX

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It’s difficult to make responsible choices about your sex life if you are drunk or high. When you are under the influence – your judgment is impaired —  you are more likely to choose to have sex with someone you wouldn’t otherwise have picked as a partner, and less likely to be able to successfully discuss safer sex.

Remember that your brain is your most important sex organ. You can use it to inform yourself, and to be aware of risk factors, transmission methods, symptoms, and methods of prevention. Know the signs and symptoms of STDs. Look for them in yourself and your sex partners. Learn about STDs. The more you know about STDs, the better you can protect yourself.